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Natural by Nature

March of 2012 I made the decision to stop chemically treating my hair and get to know my natural hair texture. My hair has been processed since i was 13 years old. The routine was to relax my hair and them glue in some hair extensions. I did this for over a decade with brief stints of wearing box braids for a break. I was definitely in for a shock going natural. So in March I asked my husband to shave my head bald. He did so without hesitation and I love him even more for it. The first 3 months were very hard for me. Feelings of insecurity ran wild within me. I wore wigs until the 3rd month when I had about an inch of hair to work with. That one inch of hair was not a true description of what my hair texture was going to be,

Natural hair is only easy to deal with if you know your hair. What I mean by that is that you cannot go by what you read in a book, see online, nor what worked for mrs blueberry. You have to know your hair and what it needs. I spent the better part of 2012 and 2013 watching youtube videos and reading natural hair websites and blogs trying to figure out what to do with Mrs Love ‘s hair. The bells in my head finally rung loud and clear this year that i need to listen to my hair. Below is my weekly regimen. And yes to grow healthy natural hair you NEED a regimen.

1) I only wash my hair once a month with shampoo (scary huh?)

2) I co – wash (wash my hair using conditioner)(Mizani) once a week on Friday nights or saturday mornings and detangle using a really big wide tooth comb.

3) Every night I lightly spray (so its not still wet in the morning) my hair with water, spray in my leave in conditioner (Jane Carter), use my butter cream (miss jessie’s) and twist or braid my in large sections. Cover with a satin bonnet.

4) Every morning I remove my satin bonnet and pour a quarter size amount of argan oil into my palm and smooth over my twists or braids before unbraiding.

Tips/ Tricks

1) Drink water…hair loves the stuff (dehydration = dry hair = breaking hair)

2) Take your vitamins (hair skin nails) They actually work!

3) Do not let your hair get dry! – you will regret it

4) Keep your hair covered at night unless you sleep on satin pillowcases.

5) On a budget – use stuff around the house like mayo for a deep conditioner or olive oil to seal in moisture, vinegar to cleanse the hair and scalp of product buildups.

***Feel free to post your tips and tricks in the comment section or to ask any questions. Thanks for reading.ImageImageImageImage

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Dr. Fuhrman’s Eat for Health Black Bean Bundles



2 cups of canned black beans (drained)

3 Scallions (chopped)

1/2 Green Pepper (chopped)

1/2 Large Avocado (Peeled and Chopped)

2 Sprigs of Cilantro (chopped)

1 Garlic clove ( chopped)

1/3 cup of Salsa (Low sodium, Mild)

8 Large romaine lettuce leaves (Ice berg works well too)


  1. In bowl mash avocado with the black beans
  2. add all other ingredients
  3. Roll in leaf like a tortilla



** This lettuce bundle is very filling, Can be lunch all by itself. The taste is unbelievable. Try it!

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Watching my weight…Literally

Wow. Has it really been 2 whole years since I blogged about my weight loss journey? I definitely have not forgotten about it. My weight plays a major role in present life. Ive been trying to lose all my “Baby weight” for quite a while now. Here is a visual flash back. It appears that it actually takes me a year to lose 10lbs regardless of what im doing (Fad diets or exercising).  It feels really good to see how far ive come since my kids were born. My goal weight has always been 160lbs. Now, im not so sure. Thats only 15lbs away and my body is no where near were I want it to be. I went from a size 16 in the first picture to a size 12 in the last picture. Im looking to wear a size 8 or 9 and lose maybe 5 inches off of my waist line.

With the Dr Fuhrman way of eating im sure the weight will fly off of me now. The amount of raw vegetables, fruits, and beans keeps me full. The decrease in dead food (animals) is great for my cellular make up. The amount of overall fat, carbs, and sugar I consume is more than cut in half. I wouldnot be surprised if I reach my goal weight in 1 month following his lifestyle change.

I plan on trying my best to Eat to live and not Live to Eat and I will weigh in again on my birthday (September 23rd). I will say this now though, I started this Dr. Fuhrman diet about 2 weeks ago and I already had to add a new hole to my belt.


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Eating for Health and not fun

In the beginning of this year 2012 I began cooking at my place of employment following the guidelines of the book “Eat for Health” by Dr. Joel Furhman. This diet is high in vegetables, fruits, beans and nuts. My employer has lost over 50 lbs over the past year following this diet. I decided to try it out for myself and so far my husband has noticed that my waist line is slimming indeed.

I struggle quite a bit with this diet (its really a life style change because it never ends). My body has not been detoxed in ages!. Im sure my cells are having a party because they are finally getting the nutrients that they crave. I tend to binge eat on junk food especially before my aunt flo visits and she visits pretty regularly :p

Looking at my previous weight loss posts you will know that ive had poor eating habits since i was pregnant with my first child. My weight climbed from 159 to 237 by the time I had my 2nd child. I dieted off an on and reach a plateau at 175-180lbs. I desire to go back to my 159 but its going to take  hard work and alot of determination to get me through the tired phases.

I want to share  my favorite breakfast drink recipe i came up with while experimenting

In juicer combine the following:

  1. 6 long carrots (organic taste better)
  2. 2 apples (red delicious taste best)
  3. 1/2 a small lime or lemon
  4. 1 handful of spinach
  5. 2 celery stalks
  6. 1/2 small beet
  7. 1 peach
  8. fresh ginger (about the size of a quarter and 1 inch thick)
Posted in Children, home life, marriage, Peace

Waiting for the world

Lately the world has been moving too fast. The months are flying by. The weather is ahead of itself. My kids are growing to fast. Ive been with my hubby for 5 yrs. Whew! When does the world plan on slowing down?
During my early evening commute home from work I play my KT Tunstall or Jessie J, block the world out and reflect on all the complexities that make up my life. I need a moment of analyzation to see if this is what truly makes me happy. But im running out of time!
I now take showers with my husband, not for romance sake but to save time to get the kids ready for school.
Does time not seem slower in the country? Is NY finally getting to me?
I cant wait for my Vacation. Hopefully time will hurry up til then.

Posted in Children, Family, home life, marriage, Peace

Life, Death, Family, and Sarcasm

You know what? Cheers to Family!!!!!

They are some really lucky bastards..They get to physically. mentally, and spiritually watch you grow old til the day that one of you dies. Its honestly  a life and death situation. No one in the world except  those that have been around you, watched you mature, got  to love you should get  to experience your passing from life to death…then if your an optimist like myself then on to the next  life?

Your family can be a group of friends or maybe just one bestie. It could be through marriage or adoption. They know basically your every thought and can track you down better than the FBI if you ever tried to disappear. I love my Family.


Posted in Children, Family, home life, marriage, Peace, Uncategorized

Outside Of The Box

A New Year is upon us. As the majority of the world prepares for its midnight celebration Im meditating on my past and my future. Last year my motto was “Just get it done”.  Just get it done got my through major hurdles in my personal and public life. My Family, which consists of my husband and two small children started a new life in a different Borough of New York City.  The move was very fast paced and came with finding new schools for my children. We all needed to map out commutes to get to our new jobs and new schools. Rough is the mildest word I can use. In 2010 neither my husband nor myself had stable employment  and it robbed our family of so many simple enjoyments. The start of 2011 became our Just Get It Done Year…for the sake of our children First and us Last. We both started new jobs on the same day after one month of sweat, blood, and prayers trying to get an interview.

So my husband and I found the jobs, the schools, the best commutes possible and began Grinding. We started out on the road to recovery. We finally had the means to splurge on the kids like we wanted to. Holidays were really good to them. I started working on my appearance and lost a total of 51lbs. My confidence was restored. My relationship with my husband grew stronger due to my stupidity I realized just how much my spouse loves me and that made all the difference in the world. If you can find someone who will stick by you even when you are not perfect, they just might be a keeper! His name is not Mr. Love for nothing. God knew what HE was doing when HE named my hubby.

This year, 2012 my motto is “Outside Of  The Box”.  My resolution, aspiration, goal, or whatever you choose to call it will be to stop setting limits on myself due to my outdated outlook on life. I know now thanks to God for speaking to me through people that Ive been limiting / blocking blessings that had my name on them just because I did not think they were possible. This year I will allow myself to expect the unexpected, to just ASK first before assuming a NO is waiting for me, to TRY first before assuming its impossible. I believe in my heart that this will make all the difference in the world.

Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.  ~Oprah Winfrey

Posted in marriage, my weight loss journey, Peace

Growing Pains

To all Astrology Buffs the effects of my Saturn Return is upon me.  To those who dont know here is a small excerpt from wikipedia: It is believed by astrologers that, as Saturn “returns” to the degree in its orbit occupied at the time of birth, a person crosses over a major threshold and enters the next stage of life. With the first Saturn return, a person leaves youth behind and enters adulthood.

This year 2011, has been one of awakening. I have been able to finally get to know myself.flaws and all. I realized that there are areas where for the longest I have been completely WRONG….and this pains me. I knew that I had self esteem/ self worth issues that needed to be addressed. My Husband and children have been angels in helping me know my worth. They have provided unconditional love that truly heals old wounds.

I realized this year that I have deep seated fear/ worry that can put me in the grave early if not dealt with. I realized that I put up a invisible barrier between myself and others so that they dont get close enough to hurt me. Even though I am the one who always say I wish I had more friends.

I realized that I block my own blessings. When you operate in fear, you basically handcuff the Lord from doing what HE said HE would do. Fear is the opposite of all GOD stands for. No, im not putting myself down but rather I am putting everything on the table so I can begin on the road to maturity and wholeness.

I realized that I have destructive behavior patterns. When I am stressed/ overwhelmed by life’s situations I tend to cook/ bake more, knowing good and darn well that this does not help me in my weight loss campaign.

The year 2012 is most definitely going to be about spiritual growth, relationship improvement with my spouse and children and breaking unproductive thought patterns.

Posted in Children, Family, home life, marriage, My recipes, Peace

Thanksgiving 2011

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This year Thanksgiving was spent at my Auntie’s home in Brooklyn N.Y.


We were all surrounded by love and great food. I made the Pork Shoulder, the collard greens that were cooked with pork neckbones and fried bacon, the 3 bean salad, the biscuits and the chocolate cake. My Auntie made everything else you see in the picture. Her Turkey was falling off the bone and juicy as ever!


I’m Thankful for my beautiful supportive family, my small circle of forever friends, my employment, a roof over my head, my bills paid, and most importantly an awesome Unchanging, Ever loving Lord in my life.


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Top 10 reasons I HATE NYC Apartments

I am a born and raised New Yorker. I have always lived in apartment buildings. So, for the past 29 years I have hated my living conditions.  Who in their right mind would put  a person’s home/ living quarters directly on top of another persons  home/ living quarters  and charge them both incredibly high rent???

The new Bedroom

My reasons:

1) You get to know your neighbors too well. The walls are so thin that you can hear your neighbors conversations among other things…ewww

2) Whatever your neighbor is cooking becomes the new smell in your apartment…..odors travel very fast.

3) Your life is in your neighbors hands and vice versa. Perfect example for you, last month my neighbor’s apartment was on fire and I had to knock on their door to tell them. They did not realize it. OMG….smdh

4) The amount of rent in some apartment buildings are parallel with mortgage rates.

5) Location takes so much precedence that quality is barely mentioned. I’ve seen dumps for almost $3,000/ month and they are not even worth $1,000/month.

6) I hate people walking over me figuratively and literally.

7) People tend to pee in elevators ALOT in NYC…

8) Did I mention they are cramped quarters with high price tags?

9) Did I mention that you can’t block out the sounds of loud neighbors?

10) Lastly did I mention you cant block out the smells of your neighbors nasty cooking?

Okay I guess you may have figured out I may or may not have a neighbor who is loud and stinks. I need to move soon and I am not sure another apartment is the way to go.. If I was to move into a house it might be out of NYC… This is truly the city that never sleeps.